why are you single?

"I don't wanna waking up next to someone whom I HAD to settle on. I wanna to be in love and to be loved back."

You took the words RIGHT OUT OF MY MOUTH. Thank you.

I was involved in 2 very long term relationships. Both of which were just... going... no where. Turned out, the one was cheating on me for years :( The other, well, the alcohol problem ending up tearing us apart. Destined to be 'just friends'.

And since then... I've just refused to settle. It's been hard though. I'm not single because I like it/enjoy it, that's for sure. But I'd rather be single then just with someone for the sake of being with someone.

ha ha ha, jules....I heard something once, they said, If it werent for casual sex, Id be having no sex at all!

truth is, everytime I have casual sex, Im sorely disappointed. I totally miss sex, but that variety just isnt fulfilling anymore. ...sigh....

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"I DON'T NEED NO STINKING MAN!"
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here here!!

Because I want and choose to be at this point in my life. I am happy! :-)

This is sad but I can't find any women in my area :)

I am shy so that is also another problem for me.

I am torn between wating just a casual relationship, off and on.

Or having a commited relationship. I just went through a divorce and after a Year of Being seperated then divorce I haven't even had a date. I want to have companionship mainly not sex. If it leads to that then so be it but I want to have close companionship. Hope that all makes sense.

Jay

I'm single right now, and for the most part I am enjoying it. The only thing I don't like is coming home to a cold house, pouring out yet another bowl of Cheerios for dinner, and sit on the sofa watching *EveryBody Loves Raymond re-runs. If it weren't for my cat I'd never be home!

Like all of you, I don't want to have to end up just settling for someone. I'd rather be alone than to be with the wrong person. I have a lot to offer and I will not be short changed.

I did the casual sex thing for a short while with a Finnish man, but I absolutely got nothing out of it. It never turned me on, and after it was done, he would leave..so I woke up alone and in nobody's arms anyway so I ended that. LOL Lots of men have offered me sex buddy situations, but it's no longer what I want or need. I want the real thing! I am ready to share my life, grow and have fun! Right now, I am alone because I won't settle for just anything, and there are a million "anythings" out there.

I live in Boston, and since I have lived and traveled alot, I have come to prefer foreign men. Currently I am e-mailing with a really sweet ( hot) man in Denmark, so I'll see what happens there. I have no expectations, and will let happen, happen. Right now we just email as friends, but he does interest me.

I am fussy. I have worked hard for myself for 10 years now in my own small design firm and as a free lance writer. I am self sufficient so I don't need a man to provide me with the white picket fence. I don't want to be a sugar momma either, even tho I do like men who are younger than me ( 5-10 is fine). The man in my life must have his own life and successes, be confident and happy with himself. We are two people who come together and share and grow through our experiences and make our own together.

Currently I am not dating, tho. I really like European men alot for reasons I do not have time to type out here. Nothing wrong with you US guys, and I would not say no if the right man came along and we clicked. Definately not. European men just seem to match my own sensibilities, plus I like the idea of having two places to call home! The nationality of men I have been in serious relationships are Irish ( 2), Swiss (1), Swedish ( 20).

I don't do the dating scene. I don't have time, don't like the bar scene or those speed dating things, dating websites SUCK! My best way to meet men is to travel and spend some time in a place for a bit.

So thats why I am single right now. I have opened my heart up to recieving someone special, and I know he will show up soon! :)

Sigrid

* For those who know Everybody Loves Raymond, don't you find that show depressing? I do. They fight all the time, insult each other alot, and have resentment for each other. I think it's a sad show really. That is an example of how I don't want my life to end up! The old show called Love You Madly ( Helen Hunt) is more of what would suit me!

i think the people we attract depends on how we are projecting ourselves. my friend jokes that i seem to attract the freaks who either hurt me or for whom i fall to far and they cant deliver. i think though that being busy and happy with being busy shows someone who is energised, adventurous and who uses their time well... so lets hope that the karma will lay off soon and perhaps an unmarried man may be interested....

Well..i hear you all..and I'm kind of amazed there are gals out there thinking just like me and enjoying it!!!! The only difference between me and most of you is that i am not of a culture like most of you where single women can be left alone. Where i come from, hit 29, and people will start treating you like freak and label you spinister. Well...So far i have refused to settle for anything less. But i tell you, sometimes i question myslef how content I am being single. And of course, i'd decide to try out the dating scene, and one night at the bars, and i will be back to my old mood..seeing how I totally do not belong with those people. I may sound as if I take my self too seriously (which may be i do,), but seriously, just for the sake of not being alone at 50 or whenever, Am I supposed to settle for anyhting less????...Do you girls out there have similar doubts like me?

Yes i want my Mr right to come along..but uinless he shows up, how can i decide to be miserable for the rest of my life with someone I didn't have that initail click....THAT is I think the BIGGEST mistake..

Thanks for the ideas..

hurray for you! im doing the same...just learning about me, what i want and what i cant do. i am a hopeless romantic-the idea of love at first sight, the guy on the bus, the guy who helps you pick up groceries you have dropped. but like you...flirting is something i cant help, though casual sex is just a no-no for me. i think people sit around and lament when you cant know what you want until i have learnt more about yourself...

I'm single because I love my work more than anything...and I don't wanna share that time!

thanks for sharing...it's good to know there are still men out there who want something real